what are the sure fire signs that a guy is only interested in casually having sex with you vs wants more?
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It's all true that a man only interested in sex won't care about you beyond sexual pleasure. Then again, some men will do anything for the sexual conquest, including faking, lying and pretending. If you are dating a socipath he will push all the right buttons and say all the right things in order to get what he wants.
I believe the true way to know is by gauging his unconditional love. True love accepts you for who you are and doesn't try and change you with emotional manipulation and such. This is why I'm an advocate for celibacy. Nothing says commitment like foregoing sex for the sake of your significant other.
Try and set up some boundaries and see how he responds. If he tries to change and manipulate you, leave him. The fact that a man buys you expensive dinners and talks about your emotions does not mean he is a gentleman. The question is: have you had sex yet? If not, then you are at an advantage. Tell him you want a no sex relationship and see how he responds. If you've already had sex, well then it get's complicated. But ultimately try and see how he acts when you give him what he wants, in certain situations. If he suddenly loses interest after getting his needs are met, the chances are he is just an narcissist and is using you.
Love is spelt: you. If you love someone, you live to see them happy.
Lust is spelt: me. If you lust after someone, you only care about getting what you want, even if it means forcing the other person.
This is a bad sign: cold then warm. This is how men often manipulate women. They're kind and then they're cruel. This causes an unhealthy co-dependency to form between you and the abuser. If he does the good cop bad cop routine, get out while you can.