Anyone that have dated or dates someone they dont find attractive? When i say not attractive, i dont mean ugly. I mean okay looking or below average looking. And how did to convince your self to keep dating them?
A lot of guys that i dont find attractive right from the start approach me, and 90 prosent of the time i reject them, because of their looks. When i experienced that the guys i found attractive and wanted they didn't want me (or other things then sex) or they were just assholes. So i decided to give the less attractive guys a chance, and started going on dates with them, because i felt that they would treet mne right + i feelt like i had to high standars- But i had and still have problems look beyond their looks. Its really hard for me, and when their personality aren't super good either i dont have a good reason to actually continue seeing them. I feel so shallow, but i can't help it. And no i dont think im super hot, im above average, like a 6. And a lot of people seem to agree with me on that one. So im not full of myself. Anyway, should i just lower my standars on looks and go for the less attractive guys or should i just keep saying no to them, and wait untill a better looking guy comes along? And to be honest i feel like im the problem most of the time anyway, so the guys dont do anything wrong, but like i said, i have problems looks past their looks
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Man i have a lot to say about this lol. First, yes keep giving the less than handsome guys a chance.
Keep disposing of the assholes because they aren't worth your time or anything.
Glad you aren't high on yourself that shows great personality.
Glad you also value personality of the man your seeing! Very good quality in you. Which tells me that if you find an ok enough looking guy, doesn't have to be hot, but ok, his personality can shine through enough that once you become attracted enough to his personality that his physical looks will suddenly seem better.
Its chemically programmed into your brain to be attracted to better looking men because thats how a species is supposed to prevail. Sounds harsh because we have logical thinking brains, but thats an old instinct from a time before ours that doesn't go away. Thats why you can't help it. I know lots of people who also started dating less attractive people because they treat them better. Eventually you will find that person too. Better looking people know they can get away with being assholes so they do. Its an unfortunate fact of life nowadays. And weaker people they "impress" with that attitude let it happen.
Man i could keep going forever on this lol. If you want more details leme know :P1