I've suffered from being sad and alone all my life, I think I may even be depressed. I am a late bloomer, I am 24, and I guess, people and girls tend to notice me now, and even like me and find me attractive. I still have deep insecurities within me, and I have problems socializing and being the "guy" everyone wants to be around. You know the super cheery social person, I am reserved, shy and quiet and so self conscious sometimes that when I have a conversation with people I am so nervous to not mess up, I often miss what they're saying.
So my point is, I want a good girl, a girl I can love, spend time together, do things with, I've had girls, and I have started dating, and I get emotionally attached, I start caring for the girl, I start seeing potential, and than I start to have feelings. And with these girls things don't usually workout, and it leaves me hurt for so long and takes a while to get over.
All my friends say, that you should just go after all these girls that like you, or just go after girls and talk to them, and just fool around, I mean, I can, but, I don't want to, I find it weird to be having sex with someone I have no connection with or feel anything for, even if they're attractive. What if I have sex and they want a relationship and I don't? I don't want to do that.
So what do I do?
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I understand how you feel, I've only had one boyfriend and it lasted about 5 years but it wasn't anything serious. I want something that's serious and meant to be not someone who will play with my feelings or cheat on me. I took a break from relationships for a while because I just got tired of being chewed and spit up and hitting my head all the time. When having sex with someone do it with someone who feels the same way about you, just a word of advice if you need any advice. I can related you kind of, I've been treated the same. I used to be shy I'm in high school but I'm not anymore I'm kind of outgoing and funny is what a lot of people say about me. Try to socialize with other girls and open your mouth and just be yourself and don't think so hard about what to say. Just ask, "How are you" or you look really beautiful today whatever comes to your mind. I have decided to wait till college to start dating because a lot of guys in high school just want sex from me and don't care about my feelings. I want a relationship that is real and meant to be I could care less about sex until I am married. Don't worry you'll meet someone, there's someone out there for everybody you just have to go out there and find her. Get to know her first and be friends with her first and don't be so quick to jump and hit your head because you'll just get hurt like I did in my first relationship, take it easy and slow. All girls are different, you don't have to be what everyone wants to see, some girls don't find guys that are not social boring everyone is different. I was always quiet and reserved growing up but I'm not like anymore. I don't go out a lot but I'm still working on that.1