I met this guy online about 6 years ago when I was 14 and he was 19 about to turn 20 and the relationship has always been sexual. I know it's disturbing and I'm a slut but I had a lot of bad stuff going on and I felt I had no one to confide in so being promiscuous online somehow allowed me to let go of a lot of tension without committing a physical sexual act. Anyway as the years progressed things got less sexual and lately he has been wanting to meet. We have never met in person because we live states apart and I just didn't see the point in meeting a guy who you are friends with benefits online.
We both date other people and whenever I'm in a relationship I never fooled around with him because I felt it was cheating. He is currently in a relationship and I have been single for the past year. I haven't been dating because most guys in college are focused more on sex then having a real relationship and I just don't want to have sex at this point in my life. I've never told him why I am not dating but he just knows that I'm not. He always tell me how pretty I am but I just considered it playful banter, yet the other day we got into a serious conversation about him not having friends who are girls and his basic rules. He also tended to make me sound like an exception.
For example, he said that if we were dating we wouldn't have sex unless I wanted to. To me, his comment was a huge deal because he is one of those good looking guys who loses interest in a girl if she doesn't put out in a couple of weeks. I'm a virgin which is something he has known for at least five years (and the reason why I currently want to stay one) which is just as long as I've known his womanizing ways.
His comments actually meant a lot more to me then I told him. Should I meet him? Can I trust a guy who would drop their girlfriend for someone online? Would a sexually active guy hold out for a girl? Is it too soon to meet someone from another state? esp. with such a big age gap and our history. Advice would be nice.
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well 6 years seems a pretty long time
i think chatting with someone for 6 years is worth taking a chance
but make him come to your state
and take things SLOW
meet as friends and
maybe things will go better in person
or maybe it won't
as long as you're careful and patient
it all should be fine
but like I said, 6 years is worth a chance0