this is the second time we're seeing each other, as before he wasn't ready to commit, thought it was basically impossible for him because he had just gotten out of such a long term relationship/I'm pretty sure he wasn't over her. I ended it, now he's back in my life (after trying significantly) but we've only seen each other a few times so far. the time we spend together is great and he is really attentive, kind, fun and talks about liking me, calls me "beautiful" instead of "hot.", but he's really busy and I don't hear from him very often. I want to ask him for more time and more commitment this time, but I don't want to make him think I'm needy because the last time he thought I acted codependent.
- if he's back he's probably into it but wants to take it slowVote A
- he probably only wants what is convenient for himVote B
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figure out what you want let him know. if you want different things move on. you already left him once for a reason. you dont want to bio down the same route.
really sit down seriously figure out what you want and how long you're willing to wait.
instead of guessing and trying not to freak him out when use no way of knowing what accomplishes thAt.
anyhow you should worry about your life not hide. figure out what you want instead of worrying about how hell react. right now you're in a rather oppressive situation. you can't even communicate honestly bc you're worried hell freak out.
you ought to be able to voice how you feel freely. if he wants it or doesn't thats separate but freedom of speech you know.
courage... keep it real.0