To start off with, I recently turned 19 years old. I've been told my whole life I'm a good looking guy and socially I've had people set high expectations of me. They either think i'm stuck up, confident and talkative, or an asshole. I assure you this is not the case.
The problem is I am a fairly shy guy. I have no problem holding a conversation at all, but I just can't initiate one. This makes it a problem with girls. I've never had a girlfriend and I hate it. I need someone in my life. But this shyness ruins my self confidence.
There's been times where I've talked to girls on the bus or whatever and I've later found out apparently I was really shy or quiet when talking to them, which really pissed me off as I thought I was doing something right. Apparently not. I've been told I'm a cool guy once people get to know me.
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What you need to understand is that most women are shy in general so even if they are the ones who notice you or have an interest in you first, they won't make the first move. Its all a matter of getting out of your comfort zone. Establishing common grounds can be hard at first but its the best way to get rid of shyness. Don't think of it as looking for any stupid excuse to talk to girls, look at it as improvising. Compliments go a long way, but can easily be dismissed. You have to be assertive, show consistent interest, and be sure not to be clingy. The goal is to do things you normally wouldn't do. Challenge yourself, converse with different women at random. Phase 1 is all about getting use to talking to women so don't worry about getting numbers or trying to get laid right off the bat. For the time being have fun learning your strengths and weaknesses so you can turn them into strengths.0