We were in an argument. We were both yelling at eachother. Then he got so mad that he graved me by my arms and slammed me against a wall. he pined me there for a second then backed off. He did not hit me. It was very scary. then he said look what I made him do. Know A day has past and he is saying he is sorry. He will never do that agen. He says he did not mean to do that. What do I do. We have been together for 5 years this is the first time he ever touched me in any way like that. We were supposed to get married at the end of the month. I don't know what to do.
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Well there a few things you can do first thing is to realize that you may wined up marrying a man that will abuse you that being said the first thing to ask is if you really still want to be with him? It's okay to say no and to stop the wedding you have that choice and you should highly consider that choice i would if i were you because if you are abused in the marriage then get divorced then the wedding was all for nothing any ways. So you are left with two choices after you stop the wedding you can choose to leave him and be done right now, or you can delay the wedding and set it for a different date instead then you and him can get counseling witch is what i truthfully believe you should do. Clearly he is having issues and he is not able to deal with them properly in a grown and civil manner which is where counseling benefits especially if you're wanting to marry this man. then If the counseling goes well and you feel that with counseling you can marry him then do so, that being said be cautious with that choice though. The second thing that may happen is that you feel he is not doing well in counseling and feel that you can not marry him and you completely stop the wedding and leave him based on the simple fact that he has physically harmed you and that counseling did nothing to improve him or the situation and that's fine because you took the proper steps in delaying the wedding and looked for counseling and guidance, so with that you can make the choice knowing that you have done the right things and taken the right and proper steps for yourself. I would suggest to everyone in the situation you are in to postpone the wedding and seek counseling and decide after that if the wedding should continue or not. I hope my words can be understood and can bring you perspective to such a difficult situation. I wish you luck and that you are happy In what ever you choose to do in life.0