Here's a perfect example. I went out three times with a girl, asked her out for a fourth time, and she sent me this text several days later:
"Hey, I'm so so sorry that I haven't contacted you. I think I'm starting to date someone and I've been a little anxious about the whole thing and my head hasn't been totally grounded. i think I am going to try it though. I think that you are great and thank you for taking me on so many great dates."
I texted back, "No problem. Good luck. :)"
Naturally I want to be a nice guy, but I feel like that's not really what gets the girls - like I probably should have texted something different (witty, etc.). Thoughts?
Most Helpful Girl
Let's not use the nice guy stigma.
That is just what guys tell themselves just so that they can blame their rejection on the girl and not themselves or on no one at all. It's not so much that you are a nice guy because you can be a nice guy and still get a girl just fine. But are you the kind of "nice guy" that just acts like a friend to a girl? Or are you the kind of "nice guy" that is also assertive, dominant?
If you are the first one then you need to be the second. Girls want a guy that can take charge, not a guy that is just the friend they can gossip to.0