I have often wondered this. Impressing a girl and make her feel attracted to him, is one of the most arduous tasks for a guy in the modern era. And this 'attraction' is almost always a hit-and-miss, because she is either attracted to him or she isn't. There's no middle path. To make it worse, guys are always expected to make the first move, in spite of so many changes in gender roles and woman today being able to do everything which was once considered 'man's domain'. A common estimate is that a girls often rejects a dozen guys for every guy she accepts.
Considering all this, do you feel that more often than not, when girls say 'yes', they just do it out of mercy and sympathy for the guy rather than attraction, because its just so damn difficult for a guy to make a girl attracted to him?
Both guys and girls are most welcome to vote/answer.
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WOOOOOW... wow wow wow wow wow wow.
Very contentious question here. Very contentious. And it all depends on circumstance, her history, her objectives, her priorities, Many many things. Her self-esteem, even.
If I had to write a book, maybe this would be a good topic -- The sort of girls who reject or accept different types of guys, and what it all means for them and you.
It's not even all about looks. (Definitely not). Or how much moola you have in your pocket. And no, I wouldn't say there is no middle ground. Always, I will reject those guys whom I feel are creepy and just not good looking enough. Then, there are guys who are OK-looking. I'm not immediately attracted to them, but I don't think they are ugly, and they may have some very nice qualities, so if they were so wonderful and to borrow a line from Jerry Macguire "complete me", then maybe they may become my love of my life. Conversely, a lot of men who are very nice-looking, I'd definitely hang out with as much as I can because nice-looking men always make you feel happy being around them, but I just had one last month who wanted a relationship really soon after meeting me, and I said no. His personality failed from the get-go. Sometimes (and I'm sure this happens for men too), you look at a person and they look amazing but you just can't see them fitting in to your idea of a happy lifelong relationship.
More importantly, to answer your question more directly, girls won't say "yes" out of mercy. The thought of having to deal with the heartbreak and rejection tantrums of a guy you are not attracted to is nightmarish lol.1
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