I'm a nice guy, I care for people and try to help as many people as I can. I am kinda shy but very out going if that makes sense. It's hard for me to approach women I like and I don't know why. It's not out of fear of rejection I think it might be not knowing what to say. Any advice would help!
I totally understand about not letting people take advantage of me, it's just hard for me not to be nice. I do it because it's genuine and for no other reason.
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DUDE. I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM AND I HAVE TRIUMPHED. It's all about not being a douche bag, but being ready to turn into a douche bag. Girls like a challenge for some reason, if they know they can push you around then they get bored and string you along as a free meal ticket. I'd hate to say it, but being nice only works with the either genuine nice girls or the emotionally damaged ones. Even if you do land a nice girl, you still have to keep her in check. Show them that you don't tolerate the bullshit they've been giving you and that willing to see other people because you're not happy. She's a lot less likely to play hard to get if she knows she might lose you. Women are weird dude. I had to pull this stunt with my girlfriend the other day. She doesn't want to tell people we're dating and that prevents me from being affectionate to her in public. I told her that if she doesn't tell her parents that we're dating that this inaction is a deal breaker for me and I won't stand for it. Just find your inner douchebag. It didn't come naturally for me, but I wanted to save my relationship and being a douchebag is what did. Women might say they don't like douchebags, but they are lying if they do. They want an asshole and they're afraid to say it. The ones that do admit they want an asshole, well, just stay clear of them cause they probably have daddy issues and brother let me tell you that is not fun.1