I've been seeing this one guy for the past 3 months or so now. On our second date, he told me that he has been 'hurt' a lot in the past and even asked me "would you say you have been hurt more or have hurt someone?"
Apparently, he's been cheated on, rejected etc. Now, about three weeks ago or so he wanted to break up. I agreed to it and told him that I wanted him to be happy and if this relationship wasn't giving him happiness, then I wished him all the best. Three days by and he sent me a text message, saying he felt "strange" and that he cared about me and also felt nice when talking to me. We agreed to talk things through and meet up.
When we met up, he started saying he didn't deserve me and that he didn't know what he wanted. He said I was too good and that he hasn't been able to hold a relationship in the past etc.. He also said he was a "broken man" because he loved this one girl five years ago, but she didn't want him. He also said he would never love someone like that.
I told him that if that was what he wanted, then I should go home and that we both deserved to be with someone who would make us happy. I also told him that I was wasting my time, because he clearly didn't want the same as me.
As I put on my coat and told him I was going home, he started saying things like "why are you going home?" and "go and date other guys" because I told him that there were plenty of guys, who were asking to date me. He then started caressing my hair and my face, eventually kissing me.
His tone changed and he started saying that he would try and work on things. The next day, he texted me and called me petnames like nothing had happened and said we should meet during the week again.
Does he have emotional problems from his past rejections or what? I don't know what to do anymore and he has left me confused. Everytime I mention breaking up he acts like a helpless kid..
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What interests me about this is that you have been with him for 3 months or more. Usually men like this, who are hurt inside, will repulse women and not be able to form a relationship at all.
This means you must see some things genuinely good in him, and I would stick it out.
As the young lady character Florence Marr in the film "Greenberg" put it, "Hurt people, hurt people," but not intentionally.