I'm different to most people my age, I don't go out and partyand I don't actually know why, I don't drink or do drugs because of what I've seen growing up. I know I'm a nice guy, I've been told I'm attractive by many females, I'm not a boring person, People think I'm funny and one of a kind. I would rather spend a day in the city exploring and finding nice places to eat with a girl than invite a girl to a party. I know I'm not a boring person, I don't know if because I don't party that people see me as boring though. Throughout my life I've liked girls and they have liked me back, yet I never end up with them. Girls have asked me "how am I single" and "you'd be the best boyfriend" But I'm still single. I want a girlfriend that I can cherish and protect, a girlfriend that I can spend all my spare time with whether it's doing something interesting or sitting in a room talking. I know I have a lot of love in my heart but I am yet to let it out. I've been hurt by girls before, generally party girls. Being 18 makes it hard to find a girl that doesn't party lol. Anyway, my question is.. Is there anything unattractive about a guy that treats people/women right? Is it because I'm not into going to clubs and wasting my nights? Or is it just because girls don't want to give nice guys a chance because they think it'll be boring?
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Sad to say, nice guys finish last. Do not pay attention to what women say, look at what they do. Women your age want the bad boys, the arseholes.
This is called the bad boy phase. It occurs between the ages of 15 and about 30 in most females. They find the bad boys more 'exciting'. The fact that the bad boys are worthless pieces of shit who treat them badly and are absolutely not husband material does not occur to their feeble little minds. I say feeble, because it has been my observation that there are few creatures on Earth as stupid and self destructive as the young female, especially the young white female.
About age 30, when they can begin to hear their ovaries ticking, most females begin to look around for a better class of male. Someone such as you.
They expect decent young men who sit around for years, then be gripped by raptures of gratitude and excitement when the females finally begin to take an interest in them. There is nothing fair about this process.
I was in much the same situation as yourself: honours graduate, army officer, martial artist, television presenter and newspaper journalist, I was even prevailed upon to so some modelling.
My mother and her friends used to ask why I did not have a girlfriend, because I was "so good looking" (their words), had a blossoming media career, liked designer clothes and European cars, had taste and the money to indulge it. I went more than a year between dates, at times. For a while my poor mother thought that I might have been queer.
The fact was, that a clean cut young man who had a lot to offer was not what the girls wanted. They wanted worthless pieces of shit, because they were more "exciting".
Funny thing, the same girls who rejected me were prone to call me and beg for help when they needed money, or someone to protect them when the relationship with their latest psycho boyfriend went pear shaped.
You might get lucky, but more likely you will have to wait until you are past 30.8
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