I have a tremendous amount of trouble finding attractive single women that are interested in me. And I have not a clue why. I'm not completely hopeless, I manage to find a girl to hookup with that I'm attracted to maybe once a year.
But all I really want is somebody that is at least as attractive as I am to have a relationship with. I'm picky when it comes to looks and personality, but I feel like I should be having better luck.
I don't think anyone would call me unattractive. I'm in very good shape, I'm well educated, well traveled, have a good amount of money considering I'm still in grad school. I'm friendly and make people laugh, and have a ton of hobbies. I go out to bars, take extra classes solely to meet new people, go to concerts and events, etc. I'm not particularly lacking in self confidence because I have high standards for myself and have achieved a lot.
Despite all this, I can't find any attractive single women - especially ones that are into me. It's like they don't exist. The ones that I do like and are friendly back to me are already in relationships. In the rare event that I find somebody that I find attractive who appears to be single, I get no reciprocation at all. For example, I was watching a band play a week ago with a friend, and next to us were three girls by themselves. They were enjoying the band (as was I), and I had been joking with them before, so I leaned over to one of them and said "these guys are good!". Her response: "yeah".
... and then nothing. No follow up, no interest in either friendly conversation or flirting. It's always like this - unless they're already in a relationship or I'm completely not interested in them, it just falls flat.
I can't figure out why this is so hard.
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my problem is also finding someone as attractive as me, but usually these guys who are attractive settle for pretty hot girls with shitty personality.
I've found good guys to date and they're not the hottest. I appreciate the good traits they have like personality, character. so it depends on what you want. there's a low chance anyone meets anyone that will check off on all the squares on their list. other guys dissed the looks of my ex bf, but my ex and current bf treat me like a queen. the most attractive guy i went out with was a bit of a douche and only into me cause of my looks
honestly not sure why you're having so much issues if you have the looks and many good traits about you, maybe its just timing.1