So last weekend I had a date with this girl I met off POF and it was an unusual date. She had messaged me a week before and she's very attractive and we had a lot in common but she was very hard to talk to. She gave me her number a day after talking and I'd try to make conversation with her but she'd usually give 1 word replies and would ask about when we'd meet up.
For the date, I met up with her at her work while she was getting off so we got to talk for a little bit there, go to her apartment and drop her car off then she asked to go to another bar her friends were at. When we got to the bar, she spent most of the time talking to her friends and I didn't know what to say to her friends because I didn't know them and it made the situation awkward because it caused me to run out of things to say. Then me and the date go out alone for a smoke, started hugging and kissing and then I told her I was about to leave to go see my friends at another bar. She offered to let me crash at her place in case I was too drunk to drive but I had a far drive back so i stayed sober. She said keep in touch but then this past week I texted her twice and she ignored me both times.
Is it possible that her bringing friends along ruined the outcome of the date? I've had it happen before where I meet a girl for the first time and the date's ruined because she brings friends along and it takes time away from us getting to know each other which the first date should always be about anyways.
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Yikes! Sounds like a terrible first date. I know some people are really nervous about meeting someone for the first time. But honestly, bringing friends is a terrible idea.
Sounds to me like she isn't looking for anything serious. She barely talked to you during the date and you have been putting in most of the effort.
I've been on POF too and it's seriously frustrating. I'm a girl and the one word responses frustrate me to no end. If they aren't interested, they should just say so instead of me trying to carry on the conversation. I've actually stopped talking to people because they couldn't communicate (sorry if that sounds harsh).\
Sounds like he is interested in possibly a friends with benefits or a causal situation and nothing serious. Maybe she was just looking to hook up? She did offer to let you crash at her place. Although that doesn't really mean anything.
If someone is more serious, they usually tend to ask more questions and talk more with the other person. So they know if they would be a good match for them or not. At least from my experience from POF that's how I usually weed them out.
Sure some people are just not good at conversations.
But did she even try to introduce you to her friends so that you would have something to talk to them about?
Maybe she isn't really that interested (hence she has ignored both your messages?).
I would say its best to probably move on. Let her go. FInd a girl who is going to be interested in you and stop chasing after the one's that aren't/1
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