i just want to be in love. i know im young, but i just really want it you know? just to be loved by a boy, told im beautiful, to be kissed, to be cherished and wanted (ok, that last wanted thing sounded depressing, i just mean like i want someone else to want me romantically like i feel for guys). there isn't a fine selection at my school at all (my friends and i actually jokes about that all the time, theyre jerks and players or really creepy). i have very high self worth, i know im beautiful and smart and funny, i just want a guy to see that in me and for him to love me for all of that and for me to love him for all he is too, what do i do?
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Patience is a virtue!
Sometimes you have to wait a really really long time, so the key is to stay positive during that time. Love finds everyone eventually...
But philosophically, the idea of love... which you just described... is precious in itself. Possibly more precious than what you get from actually relationships, which are usually messy at best.
You have this ideal of love, but once you get into a relationship (or even a fling), you're going to have to deal with all the negatives as well like heartbreak, betrayal and the fact that humans can at times be very selfish, deceitful, and sometimes even vicious. These are lessons everyone learns at some point.
But that doesn't mean you should ever get cynical. The ideal of love is a beautiful thing. And if everyone fully believed in it, the world would be a better place for sure.
But my advice is do try to protect your heart a little bit, and try to wait for the right guy to come along. Someone who sees the world the way you do. Or close enough. That is important. And recognize that the time you have now when you're still free, and independent, and innocent to love is valuable time to explore your own identity and learn more about yourself. The more you know who you are as a person, the better off you will be when you finally meet someone else you want to share yourself with.1