How do you tell her you'd rather start with lunch.
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Push for lunch. Dinner is romantic and lunch is friends. If you are testing the waters, then lunch is the way to go. Just say that you know of some nice places to go for lunch and she will get the message. If she once again ignores or tries to override the lunch invitation then I would pull back and she will definitely get the message. You won't lose her by doing that but she will understand that she's overstepped the mark.0