Ok - so this is probably *the* most asked question on this site but I just wanted to get a male perspective here.
I went out with a guy on Friday - it was a great first date (just casual drinks). We stayed out until 1:30am and he walked me home. There was quite a bit of flirting, hand holding, intermittent pashing and good conversation. However, the final goodbye involved a while of making out then both of us just said something like "Thank you for tonight. Goodnight!". Nothing else! Not even a "Let's do this again". I suppose I could've said something myself but I was a little giddy and shy (and a little tipsy) and went inside quite quickly. I should also add that there were a few vague references to doing stuff in the future during the date but nothing solid.
I was expecting some contact over the weekend from him. I'm just curious whether I should contact him if he doesn't contact me - and if so, how long should I wait? What should I say?
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I've said "good night" and then (literally) slapped myself on the forehead 20 minutes later for forgetting to arrange some kind of second date... so don't assume that the missing "let's do this again" means anything at all! It's not a good or bad sign necessarily.
How long you should wait before contacting him really depends on your personal preferences and his - which, of course, you don't know yet. I think a safe bet would be to wait a few days and then ask him if he's doing anything interesting this weekend.
There are some guys who will be turned off that you're calling him instead of waiting passively by the phone while he "chases" you. I don't recommend dating those guys and neither do any of my friends (male/female/gay/straight/whatever, we're pretty much unanimous on this).
Bottom line: you both have each others' phone number/email/whatever, so call each other back! Everything else is details.0
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