Ok, I have known her for a short time, but really like her. It is a situation where she just makes me happy. Family members, before they knew about her, even commented about how much happier I seemed after I had spent time out with her. I say spending time with, because we aren't really dating. I want to be but she shoots it down whenever I bring it up. Outside of some small signs of affection (playing with hair, sitting close enough to touch legs in front of the tv, ect.) there is nothing else going on. I have known her for awhile and we have talked or texted, if not both, every day without fail for any reason.
Now the complication. She says that she will not date me because she isn't ready to move on after her divorce. He was abusive and she acts as if she might even give him another chance if he changes, but also isn't sure so she also says she is trying to move on but isn't ready to move on.
At this point I haven't invested a lot of time but am very ready to invest whatever time it takes to be with her, but I don't want to end up wasting my time with someone that will just end up crushing me every which way in the end. What should I do?
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Try to give her some space? Give her some time off? When she finally realized that you really meant something to her, etc., she'll come to you. If you stick around her, she might not really appreciate your presence? Maybe when you "leave" her, she'd be looking for you and admit her feelings yada yada yada. Either way just like gambling. You could either lose or win right?
Well, I've never been in your position, but I can imagine how badly it would crush you.
Good luck :)1