I've never had a bf before and the only 3 guys I've dated have lead me on or broken it off after a week or so. Please can someone give me some advice about how to stop this from happening? It just feels like crap when it happens continually.
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Know your boys, and what you want. I asume you want a long themr relationship
In that case, go for nice guys.
That means get the hell away from the parties and the bad boys! Look arround their natural habitat; the library, at home, the streets... You simply won't find them at the wild parties. Maybe at a pub enjoying a beer, but not at the parties.
What is a nice guy? If a guy says he's a nice guy he must be one, right? right? NO! That makes him a scumbag in disguise. If a guy needs to constantly reassure you he's a nice guy, that he'll stick arround, that he's faithfull etc, but his atcions sometimes says otherwise, you should nope out of there. You're being led on.
Genuinely nice guys have no need to remind you, we simply behave like that naturally! We speak with our actions. If asked if we're a nice gguy we might answer yes, but we won't drone on and on about how much of a nice guy we are. After all, a person faking a personality will make mistakes and will need to constantly mind his fasade, a person actually behaving like that will do it naturally.
Sure, nice guys make mistakes too, and those mistakes can look like bad boys accidentally slipping up. The difference is that while nice guys will be genuinely sorry and try to make up for it (appologize etc), bad boys will simply try to let it slip (because since it's how they often behave, they see nothing bad in it. it does not nag their contousness)
Well, that's the stereotypical description of a nice guy. Does it make sense to you? Did it help?3