Do people who are hopeless with women, end up single forever?

Honest answers please. I mean those who can't talk to women, have little confidence with them etc.

  • Yes, unless they change
    27% (3)67% (12)52% (15)Vote
  • No, they'll still find someone
    73% (8)33% (6)48% (14)Vote
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  • The world is full of chance. You MAY find someone that looks past your insecurities, or has similar insecurities and finds them to be normal. You MAY also push away everyone that you have an interest in because they don't want to get involved with you and your emotional baggage.

    So you can sit and hope that someone comes along that will put up with what you've got going on. But wouldn't you want to make your chances exponentially better? Not just for finding a girlfriend, but just living a happy and fulfilling life. I see a lot of people in the world who sit and let their own fears get the better of them, keeping them paralyzed with anxiety and regret with improvement rarely (if ever) happening for them.

    Considering you DO have the power to stand up and put the work necessary in to make your life better, why would you not want to do that?

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What Girls Said 3

  • funny how all the girls said theyll find someone and all the guys said they won't get a girl lol, hmmm...

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    • Doesn't necessarily mean the guys are wrong ;)

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    • Chances of that are very low thinking realistically.

    • like @xPoison said, thats only if you lower your own chances

  • Yes. These are people who cannot think out of their boxes and uses their negative traits like a form of identity that is etched on to their souls forever.

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  • There is someone out there for everyone. As many time that you've heard it, its the truth.

    If you're an introver, you're lower the possibility. There's certain factors that contribute in opening doors and others... not so much.

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    • i disagree i genuinely believe that there are people in the world who just die alone. i think i am gonna be one of those. instead of people trying to fill my head with magic i would much prefer being told that yeah the chances of me finding someone are very very slim, so the advice that there is someone for everyone, i feel is just getting hopes up for no good reason

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    • @MatthewCurtis lol spray some Axe spray :p

      But in all seriousness, that confidence can arise from you anytime aslong as you chose too. But I guess we discussed enough and I do wish you the best. Good luck :)

    • haha those adverts are lies!!! confidence doesn't just come like that though. thank you and good luck

What Guys Said 8

  • I voted B but I don't think they end up with a quality person. I think they potentially end up with a clinger and then it falls apart. I think guys who are hopeless with women focus insanely hard on building a relationship and it scares off the typical person, but attracts another hopeless girl and they both end up extremely clingy with each other. This means the relationship's either super good, or insanely horrifying... or even both.

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  • Most men don't have the luxury to just sit and wait around for a girl to come around and do their thing. It's usually just girls who have that luxury.

    If a guy have no confidence to instigate a conversation with a girl then the chances of him getting a girl are slim. Of course there are girls who do the approaching and all that but they are the exception to the rule.

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  • Women are largely going to tell you there's someone for everyone and that you'll get someone eventually.

    Well, when you are the passive sex in dating, that's a risk you can afford to take--hence the reason many women believe in things like "fate" and zodiac signs, etc (huge generalization, I know, beside the point for a moment). But you are the active sex, it means you're going to have to take some responsibility for the things you want to have in your life and proactively seek them out (more women need to do this is as well).

    Understand that dating is a skill and art--it's something you can learn and master, regardless of your current skill level. Doesn't matter if you aren't confident now or have poor conversational skills now--improve them. Test, test, test, see what gets results, always be changing what you do.

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  • i am one of those and have never been close to being with a girl i like, so i suspect not. unless they change

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  • If it's something that's pushing women away (no confidence, for example), then yes.

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  • Yes, unless they change.

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  • Yes, they would die alone.
    Unless they're really pretty, or get really lucky.
    I didn't have the balls to talk to girls, until one day, I realized that I would still be alone, 5 years from now. And I would simply die alone. That was frightening for me, and that fear pushed me to overcome my shyness.
    Almost a year later, and I confirm, with absolute certainty, that I would have died alone. Thankfully, I made some changes.

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    • What kind? How?

    • You mean what changes I made? First I really really had to push myself to talk to 2-3 girls per day, and have a 1-3 minute conversation with them. I went out on my university campus, for about 2 months and I couldn't talk to anyone. But one day I decided not to go home, and not to eat anything, until I've talked to someone. I much preferred to die than to live like that. By the end of the day, I was so hungry and exhausted that it just seemed easier to just talk to a girl, no matter how awkward or bad and frightening it was. I did it, and she was much nicer than I thought. Ever since then, I talked to a few girls everyday, and I tried to improve one thing about me.

    • For example, for a couple of days, I only focused on eye contact. For one day, I focused on reducing the distance between me and the girl I'm talking to. One day I focused on teasing the girl. And I improved one day at a time. I've been on a few dates, and getting dates has become much easier for me. Not the easiest but doable.

  • If he makes some positive changes to his life, it will be a lot better for him. Without him changing? It depends on a number of factors.
    1. How low are they willing to settle. Without even knowing you I can promise there are morbidly obese women with 6 kids and a bad attitude that would have you.
    2. How lucky he is that the right woman just falls into his life, and accepts all of his flaws.
    3. How many women he is actually meeting. If he never meets any single women his chances are zero.
    4. What kind of desperate measures he is willing to take. Just about any guy with a decent job can find a bride from a third world country online.

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