Why did he just stop texting me?
Ok I met this guy out a couple of weeks ago and my friend (guy) and I started chatting to him. I could feel a slight attraction but he left without... Show More
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Dr Jones is kind of right. I've found this out the hard way. Usually the only guys that chase like crazy are creepers or only in it for the chase. Sometimes even decent guys are so turned on by the chase, that once they get what they want they're not into it anymore. Game over.
HOWEVER. There is something to a little bit of chase. I personally don't call guys in the beginning unless he's initiated quite a few conversations. I also don't initiate the dates either. Or give it up too fast. None of that stuff is "chasing" to me though. It's just a standard I set based on the type of guys I like to date. I'm not interested in guys that won't put in that little extra effort for me in the beginning because it says he's either lazy, or he doesn't like me that much.
But back to you. I've had a guy act like that before too. We went out, had a great time, he texted me the next day, and then he disappeared. I found out the guy had a lot of issues actually. Weird commitment issues. A year later he admitted to being an idiot and couldn't explain why he had done that. So all I could say, is this guy has some issues, he's not sure of his feelings for you, etc. All qualities you don't really want to get involved with.
Don't get discouraged though. I know the feeling where you finally think you've found a good one. I've been single for a little while as well. Being single though is 10 times better than being committed to a loser. So use his weird behavior as a signal that he's a loser, and find a better one. Good luck!
P.S. Don't be surprised if he contacts you in a few weeks. Guys like this are notorious for jumping in and out of your life like a yo-yo.
What Guys Said 5
Or he gave up because you wasn't a typical slut that he thought you was when he met you in the club and probably barely remembered who you was.
Sounds like a whole lot of drink and an early quitter because he can get his nap partner easier elsewhere, if you went home with him the night in the club and was easy with him he wouldn't have texted you or bothered to chase at all, he thought he was on a promise, you didn't give it up to him early enough and he quit on you, why do you care why anymore.
A guy who likes you makes any opportunity to see you within reason and actually becomes scared of scaring you off by being too clingy but they don't just slobber all over you one night p*ssed up then give up chasing when you clearly gave him a chance to get to know each other.
Sounds like a guy who likes the slappers to me hun' save your time for a worthy guy who will make an effort to get to know you and knock just to stick his tongue down your throat and run away when you turn him down.
Argh, yet another "guys need to chase you" story. My advice is to...
You know what? Fuck it. Since you like him, don't talk to him. Blow him off and make him chase you. That way if he's a decent human being (at least when sober), you'll never speak to him again. If he's really desperate or a total douchebag who can't take "no" for an answer, he'll chase after you. By taking your friends' advice, you can guarantee that you'll only date desperate and/or douchey guys for the rest of your life.
He probably lost intrest in you because you basically didn't show enough intrest for him to realize it. Know he's probably with another girl that he knows she has more intrest in him.
Im guessing there probably f***ing right now. LOL AHAHA
yeah guys like too chase, but it seems like you were giving of this impression that your strick with your time it becomes a turn off to guys.
nicely done but the guy prob wasn't all that into you it seems he was just looking to get laid especially if he just gave you a kiss on the cheek at the end of the date the next day and at the bar he would of got on his hands and knees for some. let it go he was just looking for some action sorry to say but every guy and a lot of you ladys pull the same sh*t forget about him that sux he lead you on but that's life cat and mouse! but games aren't fun especially when ur the mouse don't pull the cat on someone just because uve been the mouse at some point pull out the yarn and be above both
What Girls Said 6
He obviously had some level of interest in you but not enough to sustain seeing you further, hence the mixed messages with his behavior. However, he may try to contact you again later than you would expect. Or, you may run in to each other and it will start up again. How you have handled yourself is the best. It kept you from being his NSA girl, which is what you wanted. How much worse would that be to write this up and also have the detail that you had sex with him and wasn't hearing from him?
i mean mayb he's just super busy, I would give it another week and try to txt him again, and if he doesn't answer. then mayb he's just not into you.
showing interest is a great thing it's what gets everything started. if you bumped into him at the club that's the first no no, yea he's interested and thinks your pretty, pretty enuff to f***. you need to find someone that's going to invite you to dinner the next day not the pub. he obviously lives this wacko life and you don't want that for you, you seem like a beautiful bright young girl, so don't settle for less.
Maybe he thinks you are giving him mixed signals too. Not that it is any of your fault... in fact I 100% aggree with the decisions you made regarding hanging out with him. He may think ... well she is willing to hang out with me ... but, why is she blowing me off (which your not ... your just taking care of yourself).
Maybe ask him outright what he is looking for from you ... AND ask him if he wants to see where it goes.
i think I have the pretty same encouter like yours. but it did not happen in the club. the on and off kind of sms really got on my nerves. till now I'm still not unsure of his feeling on me but I definitely have fallen for him! I'm waiting and thinking what's the next move. I really feel like texting him sometimes but I doubt his feeling for me. At the beginning he really show interest in me but it slow down when I don't really giv it a damn as lik you said, we always try not to give in too easily. but now I think of him everyday, can't get him off my mind. what would you do if you were me? you may read my question posted today for further details. grateful if you could give me a piece of advice