I'm a 24 year old female. I recently got out of 7 year long relationship with my child's father after he cheated on me and left me.
I've been hurting but I'm recovering slowly.
The experience has soured me off love and relationships and I am on a mission to achieve all my goals in my career, school, and physically before I decide to get into another relationship.
So now, I've been talking to this guy, ok, this BOY who lives upstate. He's 18 and gorgeous. He really gives me butterflies. He admitted to having some feelings for me, and that I was his ideal woman.
He's very well-spoken, polite, and intelligent for an 18 year old.
BUT.. I don't want a relationship with an 18 year old, especially long distance.
I told him he's going to meet and date and have sex with a lot of girls because he's so young, and that I'm looking for some established and possibly older than me to settle down with.
I can't see a relationship working with him. He's so young.
My family would balk at us and how can I bring an 18 year old home to my child. It wouldn't be fair for anyone.
Still, I'm developing these feelings for him.
I know it would never work and I don't want to fall in love right now.
Agh... what do I do? This is confusing to me! I usually go for older guys, and then this kid comes out of left field blinding me! :/
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it happens. and stop worrying about society. My 32yr old gf dumped me because of age, not because she didn't like me. age is just a number. there is a high possibility this will not go the distance you want so I'm going to give you a few tips.
1) "out of a 7 year relationship"- its probably best not to just jump into another
2) "he is going to meet and date..." that whole line. - yes he will
my suggestion is to make him a fuck buddy. (its crass i know) but everybody wins. aka, you get your satisfaction with him and he gets to have sex with an older lady. (I've been there, this is how it ended even after being dumped.)
if you are very particular and touchy about conditions for sex, i recommend leaving the "boy" alone.2