I met this guy online a few months ago and have been dating on/off since. On the site, he listed himself as straight and liking women. Lately though I've been suspecting he is secretly gay. He comes from a Southern conservative republican family and wouldn't be accepted if he were to come out.
On our first date I remember him saying he had been to a gay club before by "accident" and also had been in a charity benefit that made him dress up as a woman. At first, I thought he told this story for laughs but every date since he brings up the subject of him wearing that dress when the event took place almost over a year ago. The final sign that did it for me was after three dates we had barely kissed and when I tried he never initiated it. This I found weird since we had a great time together and he always bought me dinner. I figured he might want to kiss me or something...
Anyways, I have no proof besides intuition and from what I've picked up on that he maybe secretly gay. I feel that I want to ask him if he is gay or not but also I know that is a private matter. However, I'm hoping he doesn't do this to another girl. Should I confront him or not?
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Yeah, if he's straight he'll get the message and turn up the heat a notch. Or if he really is gay he could either continue pretending and go through with the dirty deed regardless of how disgusting it is to him, or he may just say, yep you caught me and offer for you to help him keep up the charade for his family. And in that case tell him he's shit out of luck and that it would honestly be better to just tell the fucking truth.0