My boyfriend and his ex broke up 3 months long story short she slept with his friend.. My bf and I been friends since December and now are trying to give it a shot. However his ex won't let him go she's constantly calling him and texting him and he won't answer. So then tonight she decided to drive an hour and half just to see im I can't be there cause I live 2 hrs away but we are both tired of it and she won't except the fact that they are done... He hates her btw... What do we do? Has anyone else experienced this? It's also really awks being the current gf... Also we rnt quite official yet but pretty close we want her gone first.
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He's definitely not doing the "right thing" and he may not be telling YOU the entire story. It should be VERY simple for him. If she calls, don't answer. Most cell phone now have a blocking feature where he can block that specific number... she can call all she wants then. Same with texting... block it.
As far as her coming over... he should immediately go in the house. Leave her outside, don't look out at her, don't talk to her, etc.
She won't keep calling, texting, or coming over if there's no response to her actions. She's doing it because he is still communicating with her! It's that simple.
That's like saying some person I don't know came to my door and somehow ended up sleeping on my couch even though I told them I didn't want them there. NOPE, that's never happened to anyone... ever. My guess is that he's not over her or he's still too weak to "really" tell her it's over.
Other your end... you need to take a stand. If he wants to be with you, there's no room for her AT ALL. Your require 100% of his "girlfriend time". Not a bit less. He cannot have any "EX" time... none... zero... non-existent. That's a requirement you need to set. If he's not into you enough to commit to something that simple (and pretty normal), then you need to let him know you're moving on to someone that's prepared to be with you.