This is how the story goes. I was out with my friend clubbing and decided to be her wingman. She saw a guy and I approached him. Later he told me he is too shy to approach girls, as well as dating and he'd prefer if we all saw eachother as a group instead of just him and my friend. I told him that's fine and he then wanted my number so that I could help set it all up. I was a bit drunk and it made sense at the time but the next day he made it clear that he was interested in me. I told Samuel that I'm seeing a guy (Matt) but I would still be happy to set him up with my friend. Mistunderstandings happen. He was disappointed but accepted it. Back then I'd only been out on one date with Matt and hung out with him and a couple of friends of his two times, I really liked him though and I'm not the type to date more than one guy at a time.
Matt and I have now been dating for three months and I've fallen for him completely.
Samuel and I have been texting (not the whole time and not regularly) and have become friends. I'm not interested in him romantically, never was.
Matt know that I was out that night and wingmanned my friend but he doesn't know that the guy was interested in me nor that we now are friends.
I didn't even consider it as emotionally cheating until I read a question here on GaG. I'm big on honesty and trust and I'm now worried that I've been a complete bitch and cheated on him without even realising it?
Samuel has never tried anything since I told him about Matt and I would never want to be romantically involved with Samuel.
Does this count as cheating? What do I do? Should I tell Matt? And how would I do that in that case?
We haven't had the talk about us being in a relationship, so we aren't official I guess but I don't want it to be about a technicality. We both agreed on wanting a relationship. I just want to give all the facts so you are able to help me.
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I don't think it's emotionally cheating so long as you don't lead Sam on. GAG can spin definitions and meanings far out of control, so I see where you're coming from. You can have guy friends and text them, but not act on ANY feelings... which it sounds like you have none for Sam. You can't help guys being interested in you, but you CAN help how you act with him. Just as long as it remains strictly platonic as it is now, you're not cheating.1