I am 20 years old, a few months away from being 21. I've been on a date with one guy, but it was a mutual silent agreement that we didn't really like each other and we stopped hanging out. But that's all I've ever done in my entire life. I haven't even had my first kiss. I will admit that I am shy when it comes to talking to the opposite sex, yet I am trying. I say hello and try to make conversation and even invite a guy that I am attracted to, to hang out. But no guys ever approach me. Never ask me out or want to get to know me. I constantly get told that I am intimidating, but if he really "wanted me," shouldn't that not stop him? I'm confused as to why all these girls, especially the ones who really really don't deserve it, get boyfriends and I can't even have one guy take an interest in me. I'm not ugly or a mean person. And maybe college isn't the best time to even be in a relationship, but I want to experience it. It's tiring being the friend who always helps other people with their relationship problems and it's tiring watching my friends be in relationships while I am utterly alone all the time.
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If you are shy, you may unintentionally be using body language that tells men you don't like them. Shyness is often mistaken for disliking someone. Rejection hurts, and guys try to avoid it as often as possible by reading the woman's response to us.
You may have been approached numerous times and not even realized it. Imagine I have a crush on you. I walk up and start a conversation with you. I wouldn't be asking you out right away, but rather just trying to get a feel for if you like me or not. If you start acting shy, and I mistake it for not liking me, I will leave before asking you out, and you might have no idea I just approached you. The truth is women get approached a lot more than they realize. It is just most of the time they don't realize they are being approached.0