How can guys make themselves more attractive to women?

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In what ways do you think men can make themselves more attractive?

Scientifically speaking, do you think wearing certain colors, having a certain hairstyle, or even wearing a specific kind of cologne makes a man more appealing to woman?

Guys, what are some things you do that you think make you more attractive to women?

shyguy227 · Accepted Answer

OK know there a laot of awsners here but gonna give my 2 cents on the matter like the americans say :P

First of all if you wanna get an advantage over other guys who might be in the same situation as you, you wanna start of by making a girl feel relaxed by being relaxed when talking to her I mean if you come across as nervous or really bucketing it she gonna pick up on that. Since women have a sith sense vibe about them they can genreally into stuff like your body launguge quite well little trait that helps them take care of a new born babies needs in life thanks to evolition : P

any way a list of some other stuff

Confidance: helps with the thing mentioned up above and general having good faith in your own abilities
Good hygene: I think this works both ways no one wants some one who smells
Neatly grommed: Be neatley grommed, pretty much have hair neat ish
Fit + healthy: if you are pretty fit that will also help, you dont have to be some bad ass body builder 6 pac guy trust me
Goals passions: simple who dosent like people with goals or a passion in their life? : P
body launguage: have good relaxed body laungage when around that girl you like, a lot of comunication is done with body laungae to
Sucess: prett much in any general level women like a guy going places in life, how you measure that is up to you
Not being a door mat: Pretty much dont let a woman walk all over you, you gotta have limits and lines on how much " crap" you can take off a woman or a guy and truest me they have limits and lines
Be yourself: I know this is cliche and be your self is said so many times, but what they dont tell you is you shoould be the strongest and best version of yourself
Embrace rejection: this is going to happen to every guy who tries but how you handle the rejection will help you a lot

well there are some of mine hope they at least help a little

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Some research has shown that just making more money is enough for women to judge a guy as a 9 or 10, that otherwise was getting judged as a 4 or 5.

Wearing dark colors is seen as more attractive to women in general, but most guys wear dark colors, so some guys wear bright colors to stand out better, and do well as a result.

Being taller is a huge deal of attraction in women, so good posture, and shoes that add a little height can help.

Well groomed facial hair. Even women that claim they don't like facial hair, often change their mind after their man sports facial hair for a while. I think we just live in a culture of clean shaven actors, so women aren't use to seeing facial hair.

Having a dominant personality, is normally more attractive to women, than being submissive.

Having status is also a major factor. Having a degree is currently seen as a way to obtain status, even if the degree is in a useless field that won't help him get a job. This is why so many women are wanting "educated" men. It has to do with a woman's desire for a man with status. A man making the same amount of money that doesn't have a degree will be seen as less desirable.

Not being fat. People keep lying to guys and telling us women don't care about looks, or if we are overweight. That isn't true. Women care if the guy is fat or not.

Clothes that fit and flatter our bodies. Women like to be able to check men out as well. Wearing bagging butt jeans, may be comfortable, but they aren't attractive.

Clothes that are not worn out. If his T-shirt is getting stretched out at the collar, then it is time to throw it away.

Things like confidence and personality are important, but their has been too much importance placed on them, to the point a lot of guys don't think other traits should matter to women. Men need to get the full story. Looks matter to both genders.

bijinbijinbijin · Accepted Answer

every woman is differrent but the basics for the majority of women is that he has to be clean, smell clean, and brush his teeth. You would be suprised by how many guys do not even shower and brush their teeth yet wonder why they can't attract a woman.

The type of clothes he wears, his weight, height, hair style, skin color, even posture and the way he carries himself varries amongst women becasue we are not all attracted to the same things. And yes really some women will even go for the slouchy guy with his head down and we all know that posture screams lowself esteem but usually the women that are attracted to thoes guys have lowself esteem themselves.

One thing that you could do is wear clothes that you like, or clothes that show your personality. Say you have a favorite band t shirt, well if you wear it out then chances are a woman that also likes the same band will speak to you. People like to feel less uncertain about people so if someone notices a piece of you that they are familiar with and comfortable around, then you are 1 step closer to not being considered a stranger.

Also just smile. People who smile automatically look more attractive. Even a guy who gets rated as 3 can shoot up to a 5 just from smiling. With women it is not always about the actuall physical appearence and it is more so about how comfortable the guy can make you feel so a guy who smiles more will always be thought of as friendlier and approachable.

When i first met my fiance he wasn't wearing any fancy clothes, he had on just a plain t shirt and some jeans. He looked like just a regular kind of guy and he still does but the thing about him that made me feel comfortable with talking to him was his inviting smile. He was very talkative which made him come off even more as a friendly guy.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Dress nice-- not button ups all the time (though a button up and khakis with the sleeves scrunched up is super attractive, I can't help but stare), but not to wrinkled and make sure the clothes are clean.
Kindness-- no one likes a jerk
Confident not cocky-- there is a major difference between the two, learn it and be confident without being cocky!!!
outgoing to some point-- some girls like the shy type but its nice when even the shy ones come out of their shell and have some relaxed fun with friends in a social environment.

as far as specific smells... every girl likes something different. I know the smell I particularly like but can't seem to describe it... not musty though lol

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

the cologne the perfect cologne is like sofhsiodfhds fs for me lol. I just cannot get enough of the way men smell when they spray that stuff on! I dont care much for colors except for pink i dont like it on men its just not my taste and turns me off other than that colors dont matter. If he has his hair back in a small pony, or it's short and I love guys who wear snapbacks! Ugliest dude can wear snapbacks, dress nice, be in shape, and i freaking LOOOOOVE high top sneakers that stuff is sexy I don't know what it is about the look I JUST LOVE IT!! Thank you god for making men :D <3

AllAboutTheX · Accepted Answer

It really depends on the women they are trying to attract.

I personally am not into the typical testosterone driven meat-heat kind of guy. So any guy wearing a tank top, sporting dollar store sun glasses, a pair of khakis shorts, and flip flops. Instantly make me cringe.

milightman · Answer

For me what I've learned it's all about how you carry yourself, how well kept you are inside and out, and how well spoken you are.

Like for me I have a lot of self-respect and very secure with myself, and it really changes the way I interact and go about life. I have a lot to give to myself and I like to selflessly give back without asking anything in return, because I don't need from others what I can give for myself. That doesn't mean I welcome and accept with others give to me of course, and I'm secure enough to ask help when I need it.

Another thing is like to really express all the good things about me. Before I didn't really like myself too much and that showed with myself and how I reacted to people that would have the same flaws as me. But I learned to love myself and know all my best traits and just let that shine. So it really changed the way I carry myself.

Also I like to talk and get to know people. It's so much better to get to know someone purely on the intent of getting to know them without thinking where it will go. It allows the person and I to open up at an easy pace and act on any interest we have on each other.

I like to also take care of myself external wise, because I like to honestly look good. I go to the gym and stay in shape, make sure my clothes look nice, and stay on top of my hygiene. Before I would do that to attract attention, but I feel much better being happy with my own appearance than needing to be happy if others notice.

Megalodon · Answer

Physically: do my hair nice, wear rock and roll style clothes or dress nicely, smell nice of course.

Always have strong posture, smile and be kind to everyone. **Actually BE kind, your not a "nice guy" because you don't pick on people or objectify women.

Always introduce yourself first to a girl. Otherwise your just asking for awkwardness (if you around her a lot but never say hello.)
If you get in a conversation, steer it towards shit that you actually know about, and things that she knows as well so you keep the conversation going with less awkwardness.

Have a positive attitude, but also don't be afraid to call people out on their shit.

Don't be whiney. Seriously. Don't bitch. Talk less, do more, everybody likes that shit.

Never try to Alpha dog it, (run around acting like an ass trying to be top dog) **Real alphas bring other people up, not put them down.
Remember, be friends with everyone, other guys can influence girls to love you or hate you. If guys hate you, guess what they are gonna tell girls when they ask about you?

Mesonfielde · Answer

Be genuinely exuberant, instead of seeming depressed. People like that. You can also learn to fake it if you're an expert, though.  Other than that, just be yourself.

funkipunk · Answer

I try and carry myself confidently by walking tall, and taking control of a situation when such a situation presents itself.

If you're talking strictly about looks,

I gel my hair mostly everyday now that my hair has gotten a bit longer. This includes spiking it up in front and combing it everywhere else.

I try to dress well by wearing clothes that match, wearing clothes that fit my body well, and I wear a leather jacket now that the weather's getting pretty cold out.

I do wear cologne most days when I go to school; I wear Bleu de Chanel

I'm almost always clean shaven; I don't think I look good if I let my facial hair grow out

slimcharles · Answer

Thank you for asking this question; candid feedback from the opposite sex is invaluable.

The one area I have been focusing on the past few months is personal appearance. Since becoming single, I realized I became slack and was wearing the same one or two boring outfits (jeans/chino and solid polo). My wardrobe was aggressively purged of anything that did not fit, and new clothes were purchased that both fit and can do multiple duties since replacing everything is cost prohibitive. I now have about four or five distinct looks that can be rotated throughout the week and be easily added to as I get more money. It easily took 20 pounds off of my perceived weight.

Other changes are scheduling a haircut for every six weeks and identifying and wearing a daily cologne that complements my natural scent without smelling like a Turkish bazaar.

My female coworkers have all approved the changes without any prompting from me.

mck182 · Answer

Obviously to an extent, it's helpful to be physically attractive, but I've come across many average looking men (according to society) and have great personalities and they immediately become more attractive/gained more respect in my eyes. I think the most attractive trait is respect/love, the way a man treats his children, other men, women, a waitress etc. You become academically inclined and whatever else, but if you have no basic respect for yourself and others, there's a problem. Love is really powerful and doesn't have to be in a romantic sense.

Bandit74 · Answer

I don't do all of these but I think if a guy does all of these he could go from average -above average in terms of desirability

1. Good hygiene
2. proper grooming
3. having a flattering hairstyle
4. Being in shape, athletic build has the most mass appeal since it's neither too big nor too small
5. Having a good sense of style
6. Good conversationalist/well spoken/charismatic
7. Being Whitty/funny
8. Having a passion/hobby
9. I don't know but I heard women find men more attractive when they are wearing something red :/

Anonymous · Answer

Confidence. Even if he's not super hot, but stands up straight, seems relaxed like nothing or nobody can disturb him, it will make him appear better. In fact, confidence makes him look hot. The first thing that attracts me to a guy is his beauty but, if he's not self-confident, I'll feel it and it doesn't attract me.

Personally, I like when a guy have ''enough" hair, you know, not like long hair but, hair haha x) The perfume has nothing to do with it, as long as he doesn't smell bad. For the clothes, I think if it matches well, modern, that shows he takes care of his appearance. Don't care of the color, but there are some colors that match well with the guy's hair color or skin color.
But, it's only in my opinion. And girls and women haven't all the same opinion on this.

SteamBuns · Answer

Let me tell you something todays generation... Girls only like guys what "society " calls attractive They don't want a " nice guy " They want bad ass guys that always get themselves in trouble and bad asses disrespect people while " Nice guys " Can settle down in a relationship earn their money , buy a nice fancy car , a nice fancy house , and take care of their family treat people with respect and get respect i don't know whats wrong with this generation it is messed up in most ways bad asses are always players they have more than one girl friend they don't care about break ups because it's just like a game to them they just go ahead and " play "again and again but yet girls don't settle for quality guys Even what society calls " Unattractive girls " dont' want what society calls " Unattractive guys " I am sorry but it is all but the truth

rjroy3 · Answer

Have high self-esteem and confidence. Being yourself and knowing that you are enough and that you don't have to lie about who you are in order to "make" them like you goes a loooong way. Outside of that, I just treat them like humans. That tends to go over well

Calvin369 · Answer

I think 'confidence' is what makes a guy attractive to women. Clothing, cologne, hairstyles etc.. are just an added bonus.
I've seen poorly groomed guys with no sense of style attract beautiful women however i've also come across good looking guys with great hair and nice cloths fail to make any progress, the initial attraction may be good but carries no longevity.

Urbanvintage · Answer

In my opinion I really love it when guys smell good I don't care what brand. If you make me laugh I will fall for u, if you are really kind and help me out I will go weak at the knees, if you dress smart I find that sooooo sexy! And when you have messy hair OMG!!! But just being your self, smile, look good, and have a nice personality I will fall for u hard

syd48 · Answer

Sad to say but these days it seems to be all about money. You either need to be an exciting bad ass (with no money) who will treat women badly or be a nice guy with money and they will take you for a ride.
I am currently running out of ideas as nice looking women seem to over value themselves.
I think both should bring equal amounts to the party, but this seems difficult to achieve.
Time now to be a single guy and play golf and not try to be attractive to women.

SaiyanArtist · Answer

hmm... lets see A skinny douche bag white dude who makes a ton of money. Or (and not insulting my own ethnicity but truth), A ghetto black dude who sells drugs and calls his girl a bi***. What girls don't want: A athletic muscular black guy who is well groomed, smart, and who would treat his girl like she was the most beautiful one in the world. oh wait, Girls don;t go for guys like me then huh? -_-

ASOIAF · Answer

Fixing any obvious flaws. If a guy has poor hygiene, dresses badly or is really out of shape, he'll gain a lot by changing this. This only works if its actually a flaw though, going from average to good on these things will have a negligibly small effect. 20% of the effort gains 80% of the result.

Beyond that there isn't much, unless he's willing to invest in plastic surgery or use steroids. Attractiveness is mostly determined by genetics.

fiego · Answer

Besides the typical things that guys do, when I go out with my wife to dinner or a party, I normally shave with a Gillette Mach 3. I don't normally shave every day:) I also wear whatever clothes she "suggests" I wear.

GuyAdviceFromGuy · Answer

- Steroids - iPhone 6 + - Maserati - Gucci and Prada everything - Big house - Movado - Lots of money

ThreeIn · Answer

Wear red shirts that fit, show of the arms, walk with your chest out, back straight and chin up, stay clean, be a gentleman to everyone.

Pedantic · Answer

Believe everything ZZTop says.

Anonymous · Answer

Just be yourself, they like you for you not your appearance. Even if appearance does help, every girls preference is different. I don't really care what you look like tbh, just don't be an ass hole. What I like in a guy is someone who is funny, who is a gentlemen, who acts mature enough but is fun, and someone who can support himself like I can.

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