When the reason the other person says they need these things is because our work schedules are impossible right now. He is emotionally and mentally drained getting home from work (is at work by 6am and home around 10 or 11pm and working some saturdays) and doesn't know if he can give me more right now because of that. He truly is miserable at work. But I told him I'm happy to be a support system right now if he'd let me…I understand that it's circumstances and not his choosing. So he's decided that he wants to work through what he feels would work best for him (so he doesn't feel guilty and to make sure he wants this emotionally) and that he can fulfill some of my needs as well. But to do this he wants distances and space. I've just never seen that work in the other person's favor. I feel like the person that needs the space always comes back and says "yeah this isn't working". Has it ever worked? What times do you have to get through the silence and not bug them while they are figuring it out?
- Yes, depending on the circumstancesVote A
- Nope…distance and space always equal the endVote B
- Be positive! It sounds like he really cares about you, he won't walk awayVote C
- Girl, I'd delete everything and move onVote D
- Maybe, who knows…sounds like he's got a lot on his plateVote E