I am having sex for the first time with my girlfriend this weekend. We're both virgins and I'm really nervous. The only (sexual) thing we've done together is masturbate side my side (no bjs or anything). She masturbates and she knows what it's like to have an orgasm, so am i expected to give her one? Of course I want to, and I'm going to try, but I've never eaten a girl out before and I'm not sure how effective it will be. I also know that sex will be painful for her so should I try and make her sum before the sex?
I just want her to really enjoy it and I'm incredibly nervous about the whole thing. We're both 18 btw.
- Yes, you have toVote A
- You don't have to but it will be better if you didVote B
- No just focus on being in the momentVote C
- See answersVote D
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Before having sex you should probably give each other oral first and make each Other cum. Especially you because during your first time guys usually cum like right away and if you cum before hand you will last longer and just try your hardest to make her cum. I know it's both your first time but all your attention should be on her. But since it is your first you most likely won't make her cum when actually having sex because again, it's only your first time. And that's totally okay. As long as you try you'll be fine. And yes it will be painful for her. There's not much you can do to stop the pain but you can lessen it. When inserting your self into her, make sure you take your time. When your fully inside just stay still for a minute or two and let her adjust. Ask her when she's ready and when she is, carefully start thrusting slowly into her. Depending on how painful it is for her you can go faster after a few minutes. Make sure you also keep asking her if she's okay, if she needs you to slow down or stop, and also to keep her mind off the pain you can kiss her. It will keep her mind off of how painful it is. And by the way she will probably be in pain after wards as well and if she is just lay with her and hold her in your arms. She'll feel a lot better. Anyway, good luck and I hope it goes well for you two (:1