I like good looking guys, I have always liked attractive men. Of course my attraction varies depending on their personality but in general, I always like good looking men and I have a type. However, since I have a PhD in remaining single, I think maybe if I lower my standards and give others a chance... I may actually have a chance at not dying alone.
On a more serious note, how do I lower my standards so that I don't feel like I'm giving someone a chance but genuinly am as excited as I would be with the kind of guys I usually like?
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From the little you have told us about yourself it is hard to give sound advice. However I will try to help based on what you've told us and estimate the rest.
I don't think you should 'lower' your standards as such, but 'change' them. You seem to limit your choices of men to ones who are physically attractive to you while excluding men who are more debonair. Be aware; looks are fleeting. As we men get older the looks of our youth will fade - if we don't strive to remain fit.
Good health Is a quality you might want to include in your SO's profile. If his genetic makeup suggests he will live to a ripe old age you can expect him to be with you most of your life. (Most women outlive their spouses, and it gets lonely in your autumn years.)
I strongly recommend you associate with people who are not necessarily the handsomest but those who make you feel good and loved. Who do you want to wake up with next to you EVERY morning for the next 40 - 50 - or even 60 years?
In our youth we are wild and free, and we should be. It's a great time to enjoy expanding our view of life and formulating our future. Eventually however "Time and tide waits for no man, it moves on relentlessly"
Try to look deeper and see people for WHO they are.
Is he an educated man? How well does he relate to others? Who are his friends? Does he volunteer his time to help others?
Begin assessing the qualities that make us real people. Looks can be deceiving so beware of the short term benefits. Who will truly meet your long term commitments!
Bless you girl, I wish you nothing but happiness in your life.2