I met this man and the same day went on a date where we had sex multiple times before it. was over. We hung out 3 more times and had sex each of them times to. we have hung out 4times in less than a week. he now says he wants to not rush anything and be just friends without intimacy so he can get to know me and my personality better. is there hope for a relationship or is he just leading me on?
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It almost certainly means that you allowed yourself to get used for sex, and now that he's had it, he's telling you "don't expect a relationship just because we've been banging."
If you want to go out and have casual sex, that's fine - go have fun and be safe (use protection, etc.).
But if you want a RELATIONSHIP, then you have to go about things differently, from the very beginning. If you want a relationship, you cannot have sex with a potential relationship partner until AFTER a little while after you have made the relationship official. If you have sex with a guy before you are in a relationship, then he's never going to make the relationship official, because HE is already getting everything he wants. You need to get to know someone BEFORE you start having sex, and find out what kind of a person they are, etc.
Of course you want to have sex - we all do, but you need to understand that most guys are perfectly happy having a "just sex, with no 'relationship' expectations or obligations" relationship, and if you give that to them, most aren't going to want to change. Girls usually want a real relationship, but asking for that AFTER you've given the guy sex is like "selling" something on Craigslist by posting your add with no listed price, having someone show up, and loading the item into their car, and as they start to drive away, you say "oh, and I'd like $50 for that." In most cases, your item will be far down the road already.0