I have been talking with a wonderful woman for almost a year now. We started as friends, but both want more. The only problem is, she is too scared to even give me her phone number. She had an ex who physically and sexually abused her and she says this is the reason. That was 7 years ago. She tells me she loves me but just can't do anything but chat, because she is scared. She says I am all she has been looking for and wants to be with me, but she gets so scared when she thinks about it. Is this something that I should question, or is this something that can still linger, this much, after all this time?
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Well i was in a similar situation (having been both physically and sexually assaulted and considering dating a guy) so i can tell you from experience that yes, that shit does linger. It stays with you forever, no matter how much time passes or how much you think "your over it".
I know for me personally i had a LOT of trust issues so it took a while for me to trust someone enough to give out overly personal info etc etc...
Its just a matter of gaining that persons trust and showing them from there that your worthy of said trust.
If this person really matters to you then id say to stick it out and hope that you gain their trust...0