When they get near me i put my head down
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First of all, there are a couple types of scared you can be. Your explanation will depend on which one.
For instance, my "fear" of women originates from the idea that anything I say or do can and will be held against me. I was threatened for telling a friend she had a cute smile. I dated a girl who talked about erotic novels and asked me what kind of p*rn I like. Later on in the relationship, she tried to convince me that because I've watched p*rn, I'm sex-obsessed and don't value women as people.
So when a girl looks at me, I glance away. Not because I'm nervous about her talking to me. I love talking to new people, and don't have too much of a problem so long as I know they're already somewhat interested in me or what I have to say. I fear making girls uncomfortable. If I were to give a girl a compliment, I want it to lighten her day, not make her feel like she can't be alone on the way home.
I don't fear making a sexual advance. I fear what she would do with that sexual advance. A 6-year-old recently was tried and found guilty of sexual misconduct for playing "doctor" with two 5-year-old girls. Not TO them, but WITH them. He will be put on the sex-offenders list "if he doesn't kill himself before then", they said.
In New York, any flirtation will land you jail time for sexual harassment. Regarding the recent video with a girl being cat-called and followed by guys, I'd say SOME sort of law is necessary, as I think it is reasonable for women to feel unsafe with that kind of treatment. But if male approaches are criminalized, I honestly girls should completely drop the idea that "real men approach her". By definition, it would only be criminals who approach her.
Another reason could be what seems to be a common one, i suppose: Rejection. If you're afraid she will reject you, just remind yourself this: If you don't say anything, then you're already rejected. Honestly, hearing a "no" is one of the easier things to hear.0