Why do many feel if they don't ask I won't tell. What happened to being completely honest.
( I have a guy that believes that and of course I found out that he was a cheater, he had a baby on the way and basically wanted to live a double life after doing my research on him of course) lol
Do guys/girls not understand that witholding information can negatively impact relationships, or do they just love avoiding serious conversations. 😕💔
He brought me lunch to work I met his friends. He visits etc. And then i find out on social media he had a girl pregnant and then cheated on her (August.)
I started talking to him the 1st of October and we dated that whole month.
He doesn't feel like he lied. But I cannot trust him. How do you forget to mention a baby. I see that I probably did not mean much to him at all. But he still is reaching out to me. It hurts because I was honest.
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Withholding information is his whole game. Sadly, it's not the same as lying, because "lying" is "intentionally conveying a false truth". He didn't tell you anything untrue by telling you nothing. In other cases, with people who are not cheaters, the past is the past and should stay there, unless the past can potentially come back to bite you. Like STDs. If you have one of those, obviously you should share this. And kids. If you have kids, even if you're not in their lives at all, you should tell your partner. I'm adopted. I wanted to meet my biological parents. That being said, either of them could have gotten surprised by me suddenly showing up.
This guy had no real intention in building a serious meaningful relationship with you, no cheater ever wants that while they're sill sleeping around. Therefore he didn't care about the negative affect he was potentially setting up. Decent, non-cheating people won't withhold important information from you.2
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