I am a 17 year old senior in high school. I am currently homeless and by homeless i dont mean that i sleep on the street but however i sleep on the couches of either my grandmother or my mothers house and I dont really have a place to call home. My mothers house is full with 5 younger kids and her husband hates me so im not really wanted over there but sometimes they let me sleep on the couch. At my grandmas house which is only a small 2 bedroom as my little brother and my older brother his kid and his wife so its really full and my little brother sleeps on the couch since he lets my brother and his family take his room which actually used to be my old room. Well this has been going on for 9 months and i am miserable and 7 months ago i met my amazing boyfriend who has always been so supportive and caring about my situation but here lately it seems he is getting annoyed with it and dosnt want much to do with me. We live 32 miles apart and go to 2 different high schools, him and his mother had told me many of times that i could go live with them but its my senior year and i want to graduate with my friends and my parents would never allow me to live there. I try to pretend everything is fine but its not i cry myself to sleep almost every night because my back hurts so much from sleeping on the couches or chairs and i have no privacy what so ever. I used to have my car which i loved but had to give it back because i couldnt afford the payments anymore. That car was my only source of independence and it was gone. I understand why my boyfriend is so annoyed about it he didn't agree to any of this i dont think he knew what he was getting himself into when he asked me to be his girlfriend and i feel terrible about that. He is just one of the only things that is keeping me going right now and i dont want to lose him. Can someone please give some advice please i need help?
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Well, firstly you'll want somewhere to stay - A car would be good, but you mentioned you couldn't afford payments, so if you have a job or source of income, it may be an idea to look for a used car which you can buy outright, therefore negating the need for payments aside from insurance and gas, and can also be used to sleep in (albeit uncomfortably, though if the car was large enough you may be able to get an air mattress in to sleep on). (Assuming that "payments" was for car finance, which isn't really a good idea IMO)
Point 2 would be to come clean with your boyfriend. Seriously, telling him everything is fine when he can tell something is up is only hurting him. Another point would be to question why your older brother and wife are unable to afford a place on their own -- I mean, if they're just freeloading then it's causing a lasting effect on you because they're being selfish and want more money.
Point 3, is that, if you can't take it any more, it's seriously a good idea to move in with your boyfriend. There's no point in prolonging it if there is no alternate solution available, you may want to be with your friends but it's clear that you may just be doing more damage by refusing the idea than you would suffer by accepting the idea.
Anyway, feel free to get back to me.0
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