I hate when women say this, but here goes: I get along very well with guys, more than I do women. There. Having said that, I have a few guys in my life who I've friendzoned longgggg ago. We've actually end up really close and can talk/text for hours about complete bullshit. I've never been intimate with any of them even though I've breifly thought about it here and there but quickly snapped out of it. I've even gotten a couple boyfriends over the years and they've hung around acting like they're not attracted to me like that anymore, but still flirt with me occasionally. I always tell them to shut up and brush it off.
One friend has been around for 5 years... One 10 years.. Another 4, and so on... And I truly believe they will ALWAYS be in the picture as long as I'll allow them. They're almost like an extended family and I truly adore my friends.
My question is, does any guy have a girl that they've befriended after a "failed connection" on her part? Do you ever think about her in that romantic way, even after all these years? If so, would you consider dating her if she suddenly became interested? Be completely honest.. this is a judgement free zone.
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No, I don't stick around. I have self-respect (those men still want to be with you, get a clue). If I'm looking for romance, I'm not going to spend a bunch of time on a girl that I'll never be with (let's be honest--it's extremely rare for a girl to change her mind. As long as I stick around, I fuck up my chances with women who will actually want to be with me--I'd always have that piece of me holding back for the girl who I'm "friends" with.
And you know what? That woman isn't my friend--she damn well knows, deep down, that I'd be unable to really move on. She selfishly would keep me around for the attention--nothing more ego-boosting than surrounding yourself with guys who like you, no?
Since I have self-respect I won't allow myself to be used in that way, I'd leave.
If she was suddenly interested? Bull-fucking-shit! I've seen that before--she isn't interested! She just wants to keep me around as an ego booster! Dangle enough of a carrot to keep a guy around, but never let him have it. Not claiming she's doing it intentionally--I'll give her the benefit of the doubt that it's subconscious, just some survival mechanism or something. But I won't fall prey to it.
And even if I could fully invest in another woman, the more time I spend with a friend, the less time I'm spending on meeting a woman who wants to be with me.
It's a waste of time, a waste of emotional energy, and possibly an abusive situation with me as the victim. No thanks.0