So I'm currently talking to this guy that is a known player at school... I REALLY like him and I'm like 10000% positive he feels the same about me. I mean he's just not the same player since we started talking and he's stopped playing all these games with a ton of girls, like it's just me now, but he won't commit to a relationship. I don't wanna stay where we are right now, like I want GF status and I keep telling him that, but nothing ever changes. I'm trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong... He even broke out THE 4 letter word a few days ago, but still... no commitment. UGH.
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First, you start by NOT having sex with him, or even doing sexual things, until he makes your relationship official. If you give him sex, or anything close, he "wins" by "getting the milk for free."
But you also need to accept that there's a very good chance that this guy simply won't commit, and will be willing to lose you rather than commit to a relationship. If he's a player, it's even less likely that he'll commit, because he knows he can get all the benefits (that he cares about) without a commitment, even if he has to find other girls to get it from.
While getting a (real, committed) relationship is the #1 priority for most girls, it is a low priority for many guys (they'll do without it if they can get away with it), and for some, they simply have NO interested or desire for a relationship at all. And you can't MAKE someone want something that they don't want.
So, give him a window of time to commit, and if he won't, then cut your ties with him and move on, because chances are, he'd rather lose you than commit, and if that's the case, you are just wasting your time, which could be better spent finding someone who IS interested in a relationship with you.0