Being a bit shy and having social anxiety, I am not the most out there kind of girl and usually take a while to warm up to people. Guys have told me before things like I'm "too nice" or "too quiet" because even though I'm pretty kind to everyone, I tend to not be the loudest or most outgoing and sort of stray away from parties and hanging out with loads of people all at once. Even the one guy I have dated before used to criticize me on not being comfortable around new people and complained about me not being like my other friends, who are the opposite of me and are pretty confident in social situations. I'm not going to change myself for anyone, but I was just wondering what guys in general prefer and if it makes a difference in the long run.
- Extroverted girlVote A
- Quiet girlVote B
- Doesn't matterVote C
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Most guys prefer a girl in the middle somewhere. Extremes are always hard to deal with.
Say we have a scale from 1 to 10, with 1 being Shy/Quiet and 10 being Wild Party Girl. Most guys will avoid girls who are a 1 or 2, and also girls who are a 9 or 10, but they'll be all over the girls who are 3-8. Sure, some will prefer a 3 or 4, and some will prefer a 7 or 8, but very few want the girls in the outer extremes.
You'll find this is generally true of most things: a lot of people want you to choose from two opposite extremes, but what most people want is some kind of a BALANCE between the two.0