In a LDR (please no comments about how they never work, etc). He lives very far away and is coming home in a month. He's really sweet and always reassures me he would never cheat on me, do anything, I'm the only girl he wants, he wants to be together for years. We talk almost every day steadily and call each other really often, but every once and a while it's like this swicth will flip, he'll sound angry on the phone and not want to even talk, and he won't talk to me at all that day or the day after that which really upsets me. It leads to insecurity, me thinking he is having second thoughts, because he goes from prioritizing me to not really talking to me at all or seeming distant.
Is it normal for me to feel this way? I don't want to bring anything bad up or seem crazy for bringing anything up so should I talk to him or let it go? It happens pretty frequently too.
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Well consider this: "in person" relationships (at least the most healthy ones) aren't actually a 24/7 ordeal where the couple spends every waking moment together or talking with each other. So in a LDR, the idea is to keep in contact as much as possible since you can't see each other like an "in person" couple does. The issue is that people need some space to themselves, and a relationship shouldn't force a person to surrender their own personal space or time alone.
When you're wanting to fill as much free time with talking to him, it can wear on a person a little bit. Not to mention, perhaps he had an exhausting day and just wants to chill out. I doubt he's mad or annoyed with you in particular, he's just wanting some alone time every so often. I had a LDR once where we would call or chat on Skype most every day. It was nice but every once in a while, I just didn't want to talk and instead wanted to do other things for a day. I wasn't mad at her or anything, just wanted some time for myself.
I suppose it's normal for you to feel this way, but not exactly healthy. The reason I say that is because when something is unknown or foggy, some people have the tendency to run all the possibilities (realistic or not) through their head anxiously. That sounds like what you're doing. So yes, I'd say it's somewhat expected but obviously it's something you will want to address and get over so you don't drive yourself nuts with it.0