I've post about this before but I want to see if I can get more responses...
I've been casually seeing a man for the past 3 months and things were going pretty good. When we first met he told me that he was in his first year of grad school for Comp Science (which is a very hard subject) and he has 2 1/2 years to go and he also has a full time job. I told him I was okay with that and we continued on with dating. We met in the summer so he wasn't active in his classes yet. The first month was great. We talked everyday, we hung out once a week and we became sexually active.
When school started to get harder he started to get a little lazy on talking to me and we've went a little over 3 weeks with not seeing each other. While I didn't like the situation I dealt with it because I really liked him. Just recently we went a whole week not talking on phone because he was busy with “projects, homework and midterms”. These days the only time I talk to him is when I contact him first. He does not blow me off when I talk/text him first though. He’s quick to respond and will apologizes when he’s really busy and can’t be with me. He’s exact text was “don’t think I’m trying to avoid you. I have a lot on my plate right now.” I try to tell him that I’m not mad and that I understand that he has a lot going on right now. Just this past few days he told me that his step-mom has cancer (I really felt like he was opening up to me by telling me about this by the way.) so that’s ANOTHER stressors he has to deal with.
My question is, should I stick it out with him and see if he will become more attentive later (after the semester is over in the beginning of December) or should I cut ties now and deal with the pain of losing him?
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I don't know that you need to "cut ties" but I would take a large step backward. It doesn't matter what's going on in a mans life, if he wants to make a relationship work, he will. He's busy, no doubt, and that's his priority. Not you. He's not doing any work because you have assumed all of the responsibility, and that's not a position you want to be in.
I get that you really like him, but he's not actually making you happy. It's still early in the relationship and he's given nothing more than just a casual friends with benefits type thing. It's not that you need to "break up" with him, because really there's nothing to break. I'd just stop doing the work. If he really wants you he'll step up. If not, you've lost nothing.
I'd be open to other men as well.1