He dumped/rejected me after kissing me. We were bestfriends and pretty much like a couple from the beginning. He did everything for me etc. Either way, at one point he said he couldn't pursue it further and said some slightly insensitive things but still wanted to remain friends. I said I didn't want to because I did feel more and then he said he respected it since he wants me to be happy (blabla). I saw him yesterday at my brother's party (after a month of no contact). Many people said he was looking lost and confused and generally unhappy. Also, I assumed he dumped me so we had no reason to talk unless i would choose to act needy and emotional. But i have lost weight, wore a nice dress and was generally very happy and socialising with my friends. A few people noticed him lingering around me, wantinf to talk. I brushed it off and said he didn't talk to me. I however did ask him how he was etc since I didn't want to be rude but I wasn't too friendly either. I don't understand why he is having a harder time and wanted to talk to me so badly if he was the one who rejected me. He hasn't messaged me though so then it really doesn't make sense. Any thoughts?
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well the only proof you have is that he looked down at the party. it doesn't mean that all the time outside of the party he isn't fine. I think he probably felt a bit awkward, probably down that someone who was once his "best friend" was in the same place as him and yet there was no conversation or relationship so to speak.
I wouldn't go so far to project (based on people's perceptions) that he is struggling.1