So random in conversation, my significant other said he may never want kids. We've only been dating for three months... He knows it is important to me.
Why would he continue dating me if he knows that is something I desire deeply one day?
Should I be alarmed that he said that?
I date not to just date... I date because I potentially want to meet my husband. I don't understand the concept of getting emotionally involved and then leaving because you are ready to move on or whatever. I don't want to hurt anyone nor do I want to be hurt without the potential of something beautiful beyond it.
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this is an extremely subjective question - i. e. it depends a lot on him. Most guys do not want kids, by default. But with time he may become open to the idea and reluctantly agree. After the deed is done he'll come around - or at least pretend he has. True, he may spend the remainder of his life in misery feeling like he's been trapped, but that isn't your problem.
or he may not agree, even reluctantly. It's a bit like politics, in fact. Both of you are convinced of your own point-of-view. You are convinced that having kids is a good idea. He is convinced that having kids is a bad idea. As such, the idea that someone else can not be convinced that having kids is a good idea may seem shocking to you - as would be the notion that he wouldn't be able to convince you of his idea. Hence, he tells you he doesn't want kids because he thinks it likely that you will come around and be accepting of the idea.0