Hi. Please, I need all the input I can get. Especially from the ladies.
I work as a bartender in a really nice bar in Liverpool. I love working there becuase of the place, the colleagues and the custumers.
I fell in love with a woman. We have a click with but she keeps me at a distance. She texts me every day but does not want to date me or even let me call her. She says she finds me a dangerous man. I know she was in an abusive relationship. Other guys hit on her but when they get touchy she walks away from them. She avoided guys when we were still close. Girls ask me if she is my girlfriend (becuase of her behaviour). I thought i was in the friend zone but: She talks to my colleagues all the time about me. She stares at me a lot (so my colleagues say). She gets jealous of the other girls talking to me. She loves me jokes.
We got into an argument we stopped talking all together. She still tries to make eye contact with me but she has competely changed. She's now letting guys touch her and she touches them back. They are in each others arms most of the night. She comes so close to them that they almost touch lips. When they try to kiss her she walks away from them. Every day a different guy. Except for one guy. I can tell he means more to her but she also walks away from him when he tries to kiss her. And it's almost like she makes sure i can see it. My colleagues tell me if they move to an area where I can't see it there is less touching.
I don't know what to do. I am trully suffering for months now because I care for her deeply. I want to forget her but it is so hard to do that while having to see this two to three times a week. I work there so I cannot escape it. I try to not see it but that is not working.
They way I see it these are my only options.
1) Change my job (but i love working there)
2) Make her mine.
3) See other girls (but I seldom see girls I like)
What do guys think? And if I should persue her how should I handle this?
Some time ago she was on vacation so I didn't see her for 2 weeks. I felt better. But when she came back it all started again. How can I put this out my mind? Or at least deflect her actions. It's almost like she punishes me on purpose because she has so drastically changed from the moment we stopped speaking.
This woman lost my respect. I talked to the manager, booked a vacation to recover and i will put it all behind me.
Most Helpful Girl
Keep away , sounds to me she has been so hurt that she is out to play games with guys by making them want her, then turning them down so they feel the hurt she is feeling, she will probably punish every guy she meets for the wrong doing of her ex, the only way to deal with it, is to think about the awful relationship you would have with her, in the long term she would hurt you so bad emotionally, its better to put up with the short term pain now by letting her go, than the long term agony she would put you through, she hasn't dealt with her hurt and hate from her ex, so hasn't healed yet, so in no way would she treat you nice, she is already showing disregard for your feelings and has a lack of respect for men in general,1
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