He only wants oral sex, not real sex. Why?

I've been seeing this guy for a couple of weeks now. He's very affectionate in public, holds my hand and kisses me, cuddles in bed, wants me to stay over and spend the night. He wants to see me everyday if we could.

But he doesn't want to have sex. He said he wants to wait but he's fine giving oral sex and receiving it. Why is he waitkng? And he still has his Tinder profile up, so I'm wondering if he's just using me hm..


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Most Helpful Girl

  • I think you're over thinking this. If he wanted to use you, he'd be having sex with you.
    He's affectionate in public-- which is a good sign, it means he wants to be seen with you, he wants to show you off. He wants to see you everyday! That's great.
    It's early, sweetheart, only a couple of weeks. Give it time. Also be prepared for the fact that sometimes people want to wait until a serious commitment before they have sex.

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What Guys Said 3

  • It's a cultural thing in some communities. The sex ed I had in school was very anti-sex. They made it seem like a terrible, immoral thing to have sex before marriage and rely on contraception. A lot of people probably take that to heart. They could also just be extra worried about getting a girl pregnant. That's just how he rolls. You definitely shouldn't take it personally or try to make him change his mind.

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  • Dont listen to what girls say, you need a mans opinion. I can tell you its not clear cut here.

    He still has a tinder account so thats red flag number 1. He's not having sex, some times you just dont want to put yourself that far deep. Having sex with a women can create strong emotions and much harder on the mental psych to get out if you may need to (just saying). Desperate men will stop at nothing, a man thats not may think twice and be happy with just oral.

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    • oh lastly, men dont always always use women for sex. Sometimes we get sex from one girl but love and affection from another.

      It rlly depends. He could just be sweet and want to go slow. But to me if your ready, I just dont see how he's not ready. Red flag number 2

  • Gotta pin him down. Virgin waiting for marriage? Definitely using you if he is giving back. Ask him.

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What Girls Said 1

  • He is premiscous and doesn't want to catch anything

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