Im interested in dating a close friend. All in all, I want him, voraciously. ah. and he shows signs of liking me- hugging me every time we see each other, saying he wants to touch me, take me skiing or going places together, saying he'd want to help me in things.
Has anyone been able to retain friendship after? or it's pretty much done when you make the decision? the person I'm interested in is my opposite in terms of traits.
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From a relationship coaching perspective, here's how it generally goes.
When two friends try and date, if they break up it'll be the woman that generally loses in the end. Why? Because in the relationship trifecta, women are emotional, psychological, and physical: in that order. In this, they already have an emotional attachment with their friend and now that will grow. Then, from a psychological perspective, those things they know about their friend that are currently surface thoughts will suddenly have a lot more meaning. And, they'll learn even more as they go along. Things that were said before don't require as much context. Things you didn't know before will come out and you'll look at them differently. Lastly, once you go there physically, your already existing emotional attachment will increase ten-fold. When you date a friend, you're dating someone that you had a buffer with. When that buffer is gone (emotional, psychological and physical) you can't put it back up again. Imaging going out with him (as a friend, after the break-up) and having the same pre-dating experiences but knowing exactly what they mean now? Not fun.1