A few nights ago, my boyfriend took me out to dinner for my 30th birthday. We went to a fancy restaurant at his museum workplace. While it was expensive, he gets a good deal there since he is an employee. It was really nice of him though.
The problem was that all night he kept whining about things in his life that I struggle with more. On top of that, my aunt died just a few days prior and I was, and still am, grieving. It also made me really sad because it left my two younger cousins without parents. He didn’t seem to be happy that I was sad about that.
My bf, who makes 40K a year, was lamenting that he wasn’t get paid 10k more, so he could have more spending money. But he disregarded the fact that I have disability that causes me to have seizures everyday. I work as much as I can until a seizure hits. I never call in sick and I work hard. I make fewer than 10k a year since I am too disabled and hearing him complain that he didn’t have more disposable income of that amount made me feel like shit. All I want is to have money to survive. And that day I had had a seizure at work and had to leave early, causing me to lose more money. I’m scared I can’t pay rent and my boyfriend won’t help me or support me emotionally about it.
Then he goes on about how his female friend’s dog died and how sad that was, without being sympathetic to my current loss—not at any point in the night. I lost a family member. His friend lost her stupid dog. I think he just wants her and wasn’t caring about my feelings.
Then he was showing off his expensive new coat that his mom bought him. The fancy one he bought last year didn’t look good enough on him. I wear an old tattered coat I’ve had for the last 3 years. I wish he would have offered me the coat he doesn’t want.
On the way to his place I started having a panic attack and was having scary suicidal thought. I was crying.
Maybe I am overreacting? Was I being unreasonable or am I justified to be mad?
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You definetely have the right to be upset. Its not right to complain about things especially on your birthday, but I do think you guys should share your perspectives and try to work things out (:2