in your experience guys, what's the real reason a guy won't commit to a girl? he (and his friends) think I'm gorgeous, he's tried at it multiple times, had bad relationship experience (just one relationship), we have meaningful conversations and he tells me I'm smart and ambitious and he admires it very much, asks about my jobs, internships, education, traveling and asks about how things are with the family, friends. pays for dinner, drives me home. when I look away and turn back again, his eyes are locked on me. he holds my hand, but the idiot doesn't understand relationships and thinks it will waste his youth wtf. please try to help me understand. he gets very uncomfortable if other guys are mentioned. tell me he really likes me, could love me, really cares for me. what is up.
- sounds like he wants to but he isn't readyVote A
- he doesn't like you enoughVote B
- he's getting enough of what he wants without committingVote C
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Girls look for Mr Right; guys look for Mrs Right Now. A guy can completely commit to a girl while simultaneously having no intention of marrying her, and even know before asking her to be his, that his term of commitment may only be a few weeks, to a year or two. Why? Because he wants a relationship, and she fits best, right now, but he's realistic in the fact that they will both grow and change, and she probably won't fit into his future, so he'll enjoy what he can with her right now.
He MIGHT be afraid due to past experience, or just not ready, but trying to force it will only chase him far away.
This "idiot", as you called him, is sparing you both that pain of that eventual break-up, and he's also trying to give you both some great memories, so just try to enjoy it while you can, or cut ties with him. Patience might win him over and get him to commit eventually, IF he feels safe with you.0