I've been seeing this guy for about 3 weeks now. We've gone out, hung out a few times and have another date coming up. We've both agreed it's a casual, open "relationship". We hold good conversations both in person and in text. Sometimes when we're texting, I feel like I'm nagging him or he's just not that interested. I just want to know what is "proper" or what guys find annoying when a girl is texting them. I don't send a million texts if I don't get a reply, I just wait impatiently thinking into it way more than I should be. Help!
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I am going to speak from a personal point of view rather than trying to generalize for all guys here.
Personally, I don't really enjoy texting. For me, it is simply a method to convey a small amount of information without having to make too much effort. Things like: I will be there in 5, can't speak I am in class, etc. Usually if I have more to say I might send them one that reads: are you free to talk?
I sexted once, and I admit it was fun, but I did not initiate, and I wouldn't either, I don't think it is wrong or anything, it just isn't something that I would initiate unless I knew my partner wanted me to. So maybe just ask him what texting means to him. I know there's been times that I will keep a conversation going, but it becomes irritating to constantly check, and maintain a timely back and forth. I usually try to just say I'm busy when it gets to that point and say a polite goodbye, so she doesn't think it was her fault, lol!
I have never had the experience of a girl texting me and then thinking to myself "this girl is needy/nagging me," but I suppose it depends on the contexts of your texts... In my mind, texting is just a thing people do these days, and, sorry to be sexist, something that girls do especially. But in terms of needy, I guess you should try not to say things like "Are you there?" or "Did I say something wrong?" or anything along the lines of "Do you not like me?" or "Am I bugging you?"
That being said, I much rather have a conversation actually talking on the phone, with undivided attention, for 30 mins or whatever, rather than doing something else and having to break from it constantly to check my phone...
If you just ask him what his relationship to texting is, it might clarify what is exactly going on here. If it really bugs you, you can tell him that you would like him to text you more... But I hope if it bothers him you can compromise and just call him at night, or just text less? Did I help?0
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