So my friends with benefits doesn't seem to want to continue, we began as normal dating, he then went through my phone (hello insecurity) and discovered I was in a relationship (my bf and I are in an open relationship), he was mad, but we continued a sexual relationship. we stopped all communication eventually and my bf and I became engaged. He returned to my life where we once again began a sexual relationship, on and off. We were recently on again where i told him I was going on a trip to Europe to clear my head about what I wanted as this was all beginning to get too much and I wasn't sure about getting married. He said before I left that he doesn't see the benefit to him if I stay in my relationship and would stop if I didn't leave, accompanied with saying he doesn't care about me anymore than anyone else in his life. while I was away we had a fight (It had been quite a volatile relationship) and I didn't leave my fiancée. Since then he has said we should stop seeing each other and wished me well. I've texted a few times with no response. Could I get him back? And why did he stop? I mean sex and no commitment that's all he kept saying he wanted..
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So you're naturally not a monogamous person. Neither is your bf. So what's the point in getting married? You obviously don't want to settle down. My guess is that your biological clock is ticking, and you're only getting married cause you think this guy would make a good father and provider for your kids, but then the infidelity will become a problem (it always is), and you'll get divorced in the end anyway, and you'll be left as a single mom, aka football mom or MILF trying to work a job and raise kids and find a man at the same time. Is that what you want? My $0.02 is you have to choose between a monogamous marriage and living in your poly-amorous fantasy land.0