I have recently reconnected with an ex and am pretty sure he would like to date again. I would be OK with that, but I really want him to get his life together first. He had been unemployed for a while and lost a lot. I get that and understand. But I also don't want to be stuck a year down the road with a man that is in his 30's without a car still, and living paycheck to paycheck with a minimum wage job. I'm not meaning it in a snooty way, I just don't want to fall in love with a man I will be driving everywhere/supporting. So since I want to be as nice as possible when wording it is there a nice way to do it without making him sound like a loser, even though I don't think he is, I just want him to be making an effort you know.
Is there a better way to word this?
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You want a sugarcoat essentially. Tell him that he's a great guy, but he needs to take care of himself before he can be with other people. Insist that he strive to always find a way to better himself. What we do in the Air Force is this. Start off positively, get into what needs to be done/corrected, then build them back up and motivate.0
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